Sacred Relationships – Soul Mates and Twin Flames
Are you the one? What are sacred relationships and why do we seek them?
Almost everyone desires to find that “once in a lifetime” epic love story where they fall for someone that goes beyond their wildest dreams of what they thought a relationship could be. That upon the first encounter they proclaim “I found you!” and “You are the one I’ve been looking for!” only to travel long distances to meet each other, to have that run-through-the-airport-to-passionately- reunite – moment. We all want unconditional love that satisfies all of our desires. Yearning for true love is the fodder that has inspired poets and singers for centuries. Many of the best love stories involve this dynamic of the endless quest for “the one” and pining for the “perfect mirror” or “other half” to feel complete.
The terms soul mate and twin flame union are often used to describe this otherworldly love. But does this love actually exist? What does that mean if you are in a relationship but aren’t feeling that “Notebook” moment? This is the question that many ask but few are able to clearly answer. So before you go madly frolicking in open fields, flailing in the rain, clothes soaking wet, calling out to your other half across the cosmos, consider this.
There is no definitive expert on soul mates and twin flames, despite what many self-help books, self-proclaimed Youtube gurus and online courses would have you believe. There is not even a consensus as to what these terms mean. A survey of several popular websites and the writing of so-called experts resulted in some of the following descriptions.
A soul mate is someone who fills your soul. You meet to activate personal changes in one another and elevate spiritually. You may remember this person’s spirit from past lives and feel an intense bond that is not easily explained in the present time. You may have a psychic connection that allows you to know what the other person is going through. You accept the other person, including their flaws. You seem to just “get” one another. Soul mates are not always romantic partners. They can be friends, a relative, and an elder; in fact, there are many types of soul mate relationships that are not romantic in nature. Soul mates can be a connection for life or someone who comes into your life to teach and heal some aspect of yourself, only to move on. You can experience many soul mate relationships in a lifetime.
A twin flame is someone who is like your “other half” as it is a soul that split in two. These are viewed as rarer unions. You may remember these relationships from previous lifetimes. These relationships progress over multiple lifetimes. A twin flame may not necessarily come to earth at the same time as their other half. Twin flame unions are present on earth to do deep spiritual work and raise the collective consciousness. When someone meets his or her twin flame it can be an instant and unstoppable force. Twin flames are compelled to simply love one another and will most often seek the other to be in a romantic relationship. However, there is some controversy around this term as it suggests we are not whole or complete on our own. After the initial split, two individuals can be viewed as a whole unto themselves. Healing and growing in this relationship can have an effect on the world. Usually, you have only one twin flame relationship. It is very rare and not everyone finds this in their lifetime.
Soul Mate Relationships
- You feel a sense of destiny
- Past life connections
- Not necessarily romantic in nature
- Could be a parent and child, siblings, friends, neighbors, relatives, colleagues, inter-generational
- A deep connection that may change over time
- Sometimes there is a psychic connection
- Challenges presented are to progress you in your evolution
- May set you off on a new life path or a big life lesson
- Uncovers past pain as an opportunity for healing
- May fade once the lessons and healing completes
- Awakens you to higher states of consciousness.
- These unions allow individuals to evolve spiritually
Twin Flame Relationships
- Feels fated or destined
- Past life connections
- Cannot help but feel a deep love for the other
- Although it does not have to be romantic there are feelings on all levels
- Strong magnetic desire to be in a romantic relationship
- Feel the other even if you choose to stay apart
- Psychic connection and telepathic communication
- Desire to work together as a team to create
- A deep bond that is unwavering
- Challenges each individual to grow on a personal level
- A strong spiritual component as both partners will often be on a path
- Is preparation for your soul’s ascension to another level
- These unions help humanity to evolve spiritually
Critics of these terms suggest that constantly needing to seek out these rare connections do not allow us to fully embrace the relationships we have now. They believe that looking for these relationships is a way to deny ourselves what is already present in our lives and escape reality. The most important relationship is the one we have with ourselves and should be our priority. To be able to self-love and self-nurture rather than seeking externally for an almost unobtainable relationship is more empowering and meaningful in our daily lives.
So why are so many searching for this type of love? Perhaps it is out of a desire for total union with another and communion with another soul. Or do we constantly look outside of ourselves for something that ultimately can only be activated and exist within? Perhaps more empowering questions to ask are; Do I love myself? Am I able to provide for myself in a way that I seek in this elusive soul mate/twin flame relationship? What can I do to nurture and grow the quality and vibration of love I seek in these relationships within myself? And if you have found that magical and exalted connection that a soul mate or twin flame provides congratulations! May you experience endless days of wonder, love, and discovery.
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