Soul Mates and Twin Flames – Sacred Relationships
Are you the one? What are sacred relationships and why do we seek them?
Almost everyone desires to find that ‘once in a lifetime’ epic love story where they fall for someone that goes beyond their wildest dreams of what they thought a relationship could be. Upon the first encounter, they proclaim “I found you!” and “You are the one I’ve been looking for!”, traveling long distances to meet, or to have a run-through-the-airport-to-passionately-kiss-moment.
On some level, we all want unconditional love that deeply satisfies all of our needs and desires. Yearning for one true love has sparked creative inspiration in poets and singers for centuries. Many of the best love stories involve this dynamic of the endless quest for ‘the one’ and pining for the ‘perfect mirror’ or ‘other half’ to feel whole and complete.
The terms soul mate and twin flame are often used in describing an otherworldly love. But does this love actually exist? What does that mean if you are in a relationship but aren’t feeling that ‘Notebook’ moment? The questions that many ask but few are able to clearly answer. So before you go madly frolicking in open fields, flailing in the rain, clothes soaking wet, calling out to your other half across the cosmos, consider this.
There is no definitive expert on soul mates and twin flames, despite what many self-help books, self-proclaimed Youtube gurus, and numerous online courses would have you believe. There is no general consensus as to what these terms even mean. A survey of several popular websites and the writing of ‘experts’ found a wide range of conflicting information. Discussions of these relationships are at times gag-inducing and pretentious and can create self-criticism, self-judgment, comparison, competition, and insecurity around current relationships that may not tick all the ‘highly evolved’ spiritual relationship boxes.
A soul mate is someone who fills the soul. They meet to activate personal changes in one another and elevate spiritually. They may remember this person’s spirit from past lives and feel an intense bond that is not easily explained in the present time. They may have a psychic connection that allows knowing what the other person is going through. They may share thoughts and show up in the dream space. They accept the other person, including their flaws. They seem to just “get” one another.
Soul mates are not always romantic partners. They can be a friend, relative, someone older or younger, male, female, non-binary, a pet, even a neighbor. The list goes on. In fact, there are many soul mate relationships that are not at all romantic in nature. Soul mates can be a connection for life or someone who comes into another’s life to teach and heal some aspect of the self, only to move on. One may experience many soul mate relationships in a lifetime.
A twin flame is someone who is like the “other half” as it is a soul that split in two. They mirror one another, and at times as polar opposites. Twin flames may share thoughts and communicate psychically or in the dream space. These unions are viewed as quite rare. They may remember these relationships from previous lifetimes. These relationships will often progress over multiple lifetimes. A twin flame may not necessarily incarnate at the same time as their other half. Twin flame unions are present on earth to do deep spiritual work and raise the collective consciousness. Twin flames are also not limited by male/female binary constructs.
When someone meets their twin flame it can be an instant and unstoppable force. Twin flames are compelled to simply love one another no matter what the obstacle, and will often attempt to seek the other half to be in a romantic relationship. There is controversy surrounding the term, as it would by definition suggest that individuals are not whole or complete without someone else. Healing and growing in this relationship can have a profound effect on the world. Usually, there is only one twin flame relationship in a soul’s trajectory through lifetimes. It is very rare and not everyone finds it in this lifetime. It is worthwhile to consider the vibration of a twin flame union as something that may be cultivated within the self, regardless of whether it shows up in the form of another person.
Soul Mate Relationships
- You feel a sense of destiny
- Past life connections
- Not necessarily romantic in nature
- Could be a parent and child, siblings, friends, neighbors, relatives, colleagues, inter-generational
- A deep connection that may change over time
- Sometimes there is a psychic connection
- Challenges presented are to progress you in your evolution
- May set you off on a new life path or a big life lesson
- Uncovers past pain as an opportunity for healing
- May fade once the lessons and healing completes
- Awakens you to higher states of consciousness.
- These unions allow individuals to evolve spiritually
Twin Flame Relationships
- Feels fated or destined
- Intense past life connections
- Cannot help but feel a deep love for the other, regardless of personal circumstances and relationship status
- Although it does not have to be romantic there are deep feelings on many levels
- Strong magnetic pull to be in a romantic relationship
- Feels the other even if they choose to stay apart
- Psychic connection and telepathic communication
- Desire to work together as a team to create- inspired creativity
- A deep bond that is unwavering
- Challenges each individual to grow on a personal level
- A strong spiritual component as both partners will often be on a spiritual path
- Is preparation for your soul’s ascension to another level
- These unions help humanity to evolve spiritually
Critiques of Soul Mate and Twin Flame Concepts
Critics of the terms soul mates and twin flames suggest that constantly needing to seek out these rare connections do not allow us to fully embrace the relationships we have now. They believe that looking for these relationships is a way to deny ourselves who is already present in our lives or a means of escapism. These terms are not limited by heteronormative views of relationships. Sprits do not have a gender. The most important relationship is the one we have with ourselves and should be our priority. To be able to self-love and self-source rather than looking externally for an almost elusive relationship is more empowering and meaningful as a daily practice.
Some Questions to Consider
So why are so many searching for soul mates and twin flame relationships? Is it out of a desire for total union with another and communion with another soul? Or do we constantly look outside of ourselves for something that ultimately can only be activated and exist within the individual? Perhaps more empowering questions to consider are; Do I love myself? Am I able to provide for myself in the way that I seek in this elusive soul mate/twin flame relationship? What can I do to nurture and grow the quality and vibration of love I seek in these relationships within myself? If you have found that magical and exalted hallowed connection of a soul mate or twin flame union, congratulations! May you experience endless days of wonder, love, and discovery as you learn, love, and grow together.
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